Our big shower was last night and was sooo amazing!! (Can't find my camera so no pics yet, hopefully it will turn up soon...)
I was mostly overwhelmed and overjoyed by the outpouring of love that our friends showed us. My close friends got there early, set up the entire room while my mom was upstairs working on the food. I was on the couch having more painful contractions like the ones I had earlier in the week. I was a little stressed about not being available but it was a good lesson in letting go of control. When I walked down to the party room, everything was perfect!!! We received so many wonderful things and afterward (close to midnight!) my friends were like troops who all picked everything up from gifts to food trays and carried it up to our condo. I swear if they weren't there, we would still be making trips up and down today! I'm so grateful for these wonderful people in my life. Can't wait to share the pics!!
So it's Father's Day. I gave Russ a card and I loved the words. It spoke to all the hard work he puts in for our family and after he read he said "I'm not a father yet..." and I had to disagree. He is already the best dad there could be.
I've been reading magazine articles lately and chapters in some baby books that talk about how to deal with getting dad acclimated to his new role. I find these articles so condescending! Like men are clueless, bumbling idiots who might kill the baby if not properly supervised. I realize that there are many men who are not as naturally skilled at the whole fatherhood thing as others might be, but in my opinion if we treat men like idiots (or anyone for that matter), that's exactly how they'll behave.
I feel so fortunate to have a husband who is not only already co-parenting (in terms of making decisions and taking on responsibilities) but in many cases, he plans to be the lead. Isn't that how it should be? I guess that not everyone is so fortunate, so I need to be grateful for him every second of every day. Happy Father's to Russ and all the other dads out there who are equal parents to their babies and babies to be!